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The first thing to understand about women is that they want sex. They want good hot sex. The want to have orgasms. They want you to fuck their brains out. They want you to make them climb the walls. All you have to do is be there to give them what they want.
In American culture you are taught, "Nice girls don't do that!" The hell they don't! You may look at some woman as a sweet little thing, Little House on the Prairie type woman. But inside that sweet little woman is a pron star who wants to be fucked silly. We are, after all, the decendants of 3 billion years of fucking. Women are hardly going to give up that kind of tradition. Just like you when you get so hot that you'll fuck anything that moves, women get that way too. They're just looking for a nice guy who can keep his mouth shut to do it with. And that someone might as well be you.
Be Nice
Women like to be treated nice. If you yell and get mad, it kills the mood. Be nice. Talk softly and smile a lot. Be gentle. Make her feel safe around you. By safe I mean that she can be herself without having to worry about you getting strange. Women need to feel safe and comfortable. If they tell you things that are secret, keep the secret. Don't tell your buddies about how she fucks unless she wants you to. Be polite. Touch her softly.
Women like to be complimented. They want to hear you say it. It's not enough that you know she's pretty, she wants you to tell her she's pretty. Even though the feminists think that's not politically correct, don't listen to them. Even smart women likes it when a man tells her she's pretty. It's the way women are. The female attracts the male.
Women like flowers. Flowers are pretty and they smell nice. Flowers are also a plants sex organs and women like sexual symbols. A flower is a plant's way of saying "fuck me".
I like telling women about "the Flowers and the Bees" when we're in bed about to have sex. This works, so take notes. I tell them about the flower being a plants sex organ. The flower is saying, "Com'mon bee, give it to me. You want that necter don't you. Here I am baby. Pollinate me!" This is followed up with the appropriate hand gestures and buzzing sounds. They think it's funny, but you'll notice their flower starting to open.
Speaking of flowers, try orchids instead of roses. Buy her a phalenopsis orchid plant. It's not your average "prom orchid". They put out a spike once a year with about 10 flowers that are 1 1/2 inches across. The inner part looks like a vagina. Women love flowers that look like vaginas. It's an easy plant to grow and will cost you about $75 and is well worth it.
Some women like cards on special occasions. If she's into cards get one that is so sweet that you can't stand to read it. Then there's little pink stuffed animals. Some women love that with baby talk. Other women find it disgusting so you need to figure out your woman in advance.
Be Prepared
Take a bath. Clean the house. Use some air freshener. Put on some
colone. Dress nice. Have a good stock of supplies. This includes
condoms, lubricant, sex toys if you're into that, something cold to
drink in the fridge, tampax in case she's on her period, a towel, etc.
Candles are nice. Good music. Tasteful porn tapes are sometime good to
set the mood. If you're going to do it, do it right. There's nothing
more frustrating than getting ready to "do the nasty" and you don't have
a condom and you have to say, "Hold that Thought" while you run to the
grocery store and hope she doesn't change her mood before you get back.
Lubrication
One thing men don't understand is lubrication. It has to slide real good. If she isn't wet she's not going to enjoy it. All it will do is pinch and scrape and she'll be in pain and not enjoy herself at all. If it doesn't slide right in, grease it up.
If she's not wet it doesn't mean that she isn't horny. All it means is she's not wet. Some women have trouble getting wet at different times of the month. She might be taking medicine like antihistamines that cause every hole to dry up. Being dry isn't a reflection on you. It only means that you should grease it up first.
Good lubrication is necessary. It is one of the common mistakes that a lot of guys get wrong. If it isn't greased up nothing else matters. And the better it slides the better the sex will be. There are even times that you have to pull it out and add more grease. That's fine. If it feels like it's dragging, pull it out and smear some more on.
A woman won't come if she's in pain. You have to be careful you make sure what you're doing isn't hurting her. Beside lubrication you also want to avoid pulling her hair, cutting off the blood supply to her arms or legs, biting too hard, things like that. Women like to breathe so you want to watch you don't put your full weight on her and suffocate her. Be careful not to break anything. The important thing is to make her physically comfortable. That way she can focus on the sex.
It's like Petting Cats
When you go to pet a cat there are several thing you'll quickly learn. First of all you can't really pet a cat unless it wants to be petted. If you pet it anyway it will crawl and hiss at you and run away. You have to approach it carefully. The cat notices you and slowly wonders over. It rubs around in a way that indicates it might want to be petted.
You then stick one finger out and let the cat smell it. Once the cat has sniffed you you can then scratch it's head a little. At that point the cat it ready to be petted, but you have to pet the cat that way it wants you to. You'll notice that the cat will give you signals. If it rubs it's face against your hand it wants it on the face and head. If it arches it's back it wants it down the back. If it rolls over and stretches it might want it on the belly. But you want to be careful because not every cat is a belly cat. You have to be a very advanced cat petter before you can go up to a strange cat and do it's belly. But if you understand advanced techniques for petting cats, (a book I hope to write some day), then you understand women.
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Like a cat, once your touching a woman she will give you clues as to how she wants to be touched and what she wants you to do next. What you have to do is watch for the clues and do what she wants. You go at her pace. First she might want to kiss, so you kiss. As she gets more excited the kissing will become more passionate. Follow her lead. You don't have to seduce her, just let her seduce herself. Whatch her body signals.
If she pulls you in closer, pull her closer. If she touches her breast, start working on the breast. Touch it lightly and see how she responds. If she presses against your hand then work on them more. If she backs away then you back away and go back to what works. You can lead a little if you're careful. Touch lightly and see how she responds. If she likes it go for it, if not, back away and try something else. Or just lay back and let her do her thing.
Women will move in ways to indicate what to do next. If you're lying down and she starts rocking her hips she's telling you that she's ready for you to go "down there". That's the time to go for the crotch and start learning about how she likes it. Follow her movement as she repositions herself and shows you where she likes it. You probe her body and you watch carefully for her reaction. When you see something working, go for it. If it's not then try something else. The key is to observe and respond.
Eventually she will give you the signal that it's time to "do the nasty". It's usually a pretty clear signal where she's ready and it's time to stick it in. I ususally ask, "How do you like to do it?" But often she'll be either getting on top of me or pulling me on top of her. Then it's time to put the condom on and go for it.
Some women are shy and inhibited and some women are not shy and uninhibited. The unhibited ones are easy. You know what they want because they let you know. The shy ones are trickier. You have to go slower and ask more questions. They want more conversation. The shy and inhibited ones want to be uninhibited, but it takes longer to build up that trust. But if you allow the extra time you can still get her to be as uninhibited as a porn star, and all you have to do is to create the environment that allows her to be sexually comfortable with you. She wants an intense sexual experiance. All you have to do is allow it to happen. It's that easy!
Syncronization
Getting back to cats, all cats are belly cats. They just love to stretch and have their bellys rubbed. However, few cats actually let you do this and have never had a human go in and do it's belly. In fact if even try to touch it's belly you're going to feel claws and teeth. But once you've mastered the ability to mind meld with the cat and merge yourself totally in the cats energy, to where you and and the cat are one, you can do anything, touch it anywhere, and the cat loves it as it lays there in helpless bliss.
Inside every woman is a porn star waiting for the right man to bring it out. Someone who can allow her to be that, to be totally into her primal instinctual nature. To be the total female animal in heat and offering herself to the male animal to be fucked. That's what they want. That's what you want. And it's not hard to make it happen. In fact it's the kind of thing that would normally happen on it's own if you don't mess it up. So the trick in getting there is to realize that you don't make it happen, you allow it to happen.
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Women are like African Violets. They want to bloom. But men think they have to make it happen. They try to do things to make the woman come, but the timings not right. She's not ready mentally and it's not happening. Both are aware that it's not happening that the issue of failure becomes a distraction. The couple isn't focused on the sex and therefore aren't really enjoying it. And it doesn't matter what they do because they aren't doing it together. You have to be syncronized.
Many people think there some magic technique and if you hit the "G Spot" you will attain true love. Or maybe it's the "velvet buzzsaw" or the "butterfly flick" or some other method you think will get you there. Method is somewhat important, and I will go into that, but method isn't the thing that really makes it work. What realy works is that whatever you do that you do it together. To people doing it together, that's what makes it work.
It's like singing a song with someone else. First you have to pick the song and decide what you're going to sing. Some songs are better than others, but whatever you song, it what you both decided to sing together. It's a good idea to pick a song you both know the words to. Then you start singing together. First you warm up, clear your throats, sing a few notes, and try to syncronize. You have to harmonize you voices together and get the timing right.
As you practice your timing becomes exact. You sing in unison. You voices harmonize and the song itself develops a life of it's own. Before this you are two people trying to sing together. Then all of a sudden the song comes to life and it attains it's own reality. The song is there and you both are just part of the song. Together you become one with the music and one with each other and you become the music.
This is the secret of how sex works. It doesn't matter what you are doing as long as you are syncronized. First you are two naked people who are clumsilly groping each other, her tyring to get you hard, you trying to get her wet. You're exploring how you want to do it, like choosing what song to sing together. Next thing you do is stick it in and things aren't really working. You're going at it and she's not, or she's going at it and you're not. You have to syncronize.
At first you have to line things up and get comfortable physically. Get into the right position to start humping. Then you both move slowly, just like two singers warming up together. You establish a pattern and a rythm. It doesn't matter if the rythm is slow or fast, gentile or rough, hard or soft. What matters is that you establish a rythm. Once you establish a rythm the sexual feeling builds and as it builds the sex becomes real and exists between you. At first you were two people trying to fuck. Now the sex is there are you are just part of the sex. And the sex exists between you and you join as one sharing the sex. And the sex becomes like the song. And as the singers turn into the song, the lovers turn into the sex.
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